United in Motherhood

From the moment a child enters our lives, we are changed. Everything we believed to have control over, what easily could be adjusted with a scratch of a pen…that plan just doesn’t play out and our needs are quickly placed on the back-burner. All we can do is surrender. We surrender to reality, love, hurt, fear and joy. We surrender to motherhood.

We hold so much weight with each decision. The love we have for our children causes immense pressure on how we parent. Panic spirals over little things…we learn to push the terror of those anxieties to the back of our minds praying they never take shape.

Guilt finds you. We can’t hide away the scary parts of the world forever. How will I keep them happy, give them what they need? How will I ever be enough? You realize you’ll never be perfect, you can’t make everything better. It’s all so overwhelming and the truth is you are enough. Your love and your presence is perfect already. That uncertainty you carry, the heaviness…you fight through it, you do it because you are strength, you are power, you are a mother.

The ability to comfort keeps our children reaching for us. We become tangled in limbs…wrapped in arms and legs, fingers all over our bodies. We are their calm, the warm place of safety snuggled in kisses and hugs. So we lean into them pushing our bodies close giving them every ounce of support we can offer. These are moments of motherhood. At some point they will push us away, that time will come and when it does we let them go. We do it because we are mothers, we do it to let them grow.   

Pain finds you in their tears, their heartbreak. All the hardships they go through, you face them too. They will make poor decision and we’ll brace for their impact. It’s love without limits. When the outcome isn’t pretty, we’ll be right there to hold them.

It’s all just the way of life. It doesn’t matter their age or the distance between us, we are connected to our children through the deepest parts of our souls. What we've done for them,  what we’ll continue to do…it will never stop because that person, that life we live for...they are flourishing into something more, something greater and more beautiful than anything we have ever known. 

Together we are united in motherhood.

From one mom to another,

Happy Mother’s Day.